An Innocent Gesture.

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My friends and I often used to dine out on Wednesdays. As a routine habit, we went out that Wednesday too. There we were…the 3 of us seated on a cycle-rickshaw. A discussion was going on about the 2 dazzling sisters from Kashmir. They had recently joined Thapar and were pursuing BCA. And around a hundred boys were pursuing them. Both of them had striking features and it was hard to say who was more beautiful. But the best thing was that they were like ‘Cadbury Dairy Milk Shots’. Whenever one was seen, the other could be spotted right at her side.

Yaar…samajh ni aata kisko dekhun. Dimaag khraab kar deti hain dono hi! ” said Mohit, for the umpteenth time this week. He was sure that God had answered his prays and sent his lady-luck at the right place, at the right time. It was our final year. We had all the time for wooing girls. Both of us were placed and trying our luck in the wee days left in college. Unlike us, our third companion was well-behaved and never talked about girls. So, I won’t talk about him too.

We had reached close to Heavens restaurant. I asked the rickshaw puller to halt to one side to get my mobile recharged.

I entered the recharge shop and recited my mobile number. I asked him to make the recharge before 9 p.m. and he winked an approval. I gave him a toothy grin and made my way out of his shop. As soon as I pulled the glazed door open a set of beautiful eyes met mine. Her face was fully veiled in her black dupatta. We looked at each other for full 1 second and then I left mesmerized. I overheard her, reciting her number to the shopkeeper and made a mental note.

Kya dekh rha tha bhai aakhen faad faad ke? ” shouted Mohit.

Uss ladki ko…abey aankhen bahut sundar hain uski, ” I said turning red.

Bhai chitkabri hai…haath ni dekhe tune, ” he continued nonchalantly.

I hopped back on the rickshaw without responding. I had noticed the girl’s mother waiting right behind us on her scooter. Besides this, something told me that both the girl and her mother had heard Mohit’s comment. I wanted to disappear out of sight and asked the rickshaw puller to paddle fast.

Preety…chaliye, ” suggested her mom.

Hanji Mumma aaii, ” Preety answered respectfully.

***

It was 12 o’clock and I still couldn’t sleep. It was not the cream chicken which was keeping me awake. It was something else. I can’t sleep with a troubled mind. I felt guilty of making Preety and her mom feel horrible that evening. 9888****** the number was still fresh in my memory. Without giving a second thought I touched my keypad multiple times and dialled a message.

I tapped on the ‘Send’ option and hid in my blanket. I was afraid, I don’t know why. After 1 long minute, I heard a buzz on my mobile.

‘Thanks a lot. No one has ever appreciated me before!’ was her reply. I scrolled up to read my message.

‘Preety you have the darkest and prettiest pair of eyes I have ever seen (boy at the recharge shop, our eyes met at the shop entrance…8 p.m.).’

Excited at the quick response, I decided to send another message.

“No buddy…it is wrong.” said my inner voice. I had no option but to listen. I always listen to what my heart says. Rolling up my blanket once again, I closed my eyes. There was a serene smile on my face and I dreamed and slept in contentment.

Stop Staa…aa…mmering!

Source: kidshealth.org

Source: kidshealth.org

‘If blindness is the worst curse God can give you; stammering is surely the second.’

–  Stranger I met in a bus in 3rd year of college.

‘I try to speak as little as possible in public. Not that I don’t want to, but I can’t.’

– My friend.

‘During my placement interviews, the interviewers focussed more attention on HOW I was speaking instead of WHAT I was telling them!’

– My close buddy & benefiter of this exercise.

I am not a speech therapist. Neither do I like boasting about my knowledge & experiences. The problem with me is that I did things in college and life at large which seemed insignificant at that point. Now, I want to share those insignificant learnings with you. Besides this, I had faced some similar speech problems during my stint at forced ambidexterity.

      And, departing, leave behind us
Footprints on the sands of time;

    Footprints, that perhaps another,
Sailing o’er life’s solemn main,

    A forlorn and shipwrecked brother,
Seeing, shall take heart again.

                                                         –  Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (A Psalm of Life)

I know it’s very easy to list down the following activities and how difficult it is to put them into action. Still how bad do you want change ? One of my friends was even ready to pose all nude if he could just get rid of stammering and the accompanied shyness through it! Dude, it might help!

Step 1- Accept and Expose yourself. Do not try to hide that you stammer. In fact, approach all your friends boldly and talk confidently and stammer frequently. Yes do it! Once, this shyness is overcome, look to change yourself.

Step 2- Sing songs every day, every time. Any passerby should always hear you humming.

Step 3- Adopt a sing-song voice. Don’t say things. Sing things. Probably, this would make your friends around you laugh. Laugh with them and sing with them.

Step 4- After singing melodies, turn to rap. Not the English ones. I would suggest, go for Bollywood Honey Singh raps.

Step 5- Make raps impromptu when you are alone. Self-talk in rap. Think in rap.

Step 6- Take out 15 minutes from your busy schedule and live this moment…Imagine yourself to be successful and all the media is crowding next to you. They want to hear you comment on the cricket team’s performance OR the SENSEX OR where do you plan to spend your next summer vacations. Talk to them. Entertain them, amuse them. But all this while, you won’t be stammering. You won’t be pacing too fast or going too slow.

Some of you really are poor at fantasizing. No worries. Get yourself a talking buddy, a real one. She/he could be your mom/dad/brother/sister/best friend/girlfriend/boyfriend/best friend’s girlfriend or boyfriend etc. Try not to bore her/him. Discuss nice ideas. If you are a girl, gossip!

Do this and magic will happen! A firm believer in the ‘Right to Confidence’, the most important right of every individual, I’ll end with my favourite quote.

‘Abhi bhi & kabhi bhi der nai hui’

– Nandu.