Author Archives

Nandish Malhotrahttps://nandishmalhotra.wordpress.com
Nandish Malhotra's avatar

The concept of magnitude. – II

by

“Yaar lagta hai sabse zyada chull meri bandi ko hi machh rhi hai.Nai nai job pe lagi nai ki isse pub mein flaming shots maarne hain!…rock concerts mein head banging karni hai!…abhi kuch mahine pehle yehi madam kehti thi…ghar pe jab hoti hun phone mat kia karo..mummy papa gussa karte hain…”    

– Anonymous.

On, the other end I couldn’t help smiling to myself…Babli mein potential to humesha se hi tha!

Hi people!

This is a sequel to my previous blog post

https://nandishmalhotra.wordpress.com/2013/10/02/the-concept-of-magnitude-andor-the-signs-do-not-matter/

As I said in my previous post and I iterate again…Magnitude is all that is important, the sign or the nature of it, is always subject to change.

Carrying on from my previous post, I would like to first put forth the dialogue I had with my high school computer teacher, who has been studying Vedic Logic for some time.

NOT-Gate

He questioned me, “Do you know Nandish, who invented the NOT gate?”

I said, “No sir.”

In came his reply, “Nandish…”

“I beg your pardon sir!”

“I mean, Lord Shiva.”

“But how, sir?”

“He used the NOT gate to transform Maha Gauri to Maha Kaali and vice versa.”

V0045118 Kali trampling Shiva. Chromolithograph by R. Varma.7-2

(I know many of you may argue with me on this. But since we are all not too sure about history, let’s just consider this a possibility. You would have to agree, both the Goddesses were very closely associated with Lord Shiva.)

He shot another question back at me, “What’s your take on this observation?”

“I think sir it’s only the magnitude which matters, you can always change the sign with the NOT gate.”

“Exactly!”,he beamed.

***

Fortunately, I have many friend groups. In almost each group we have a girl (yes, we do have some girls in each of my groups except for the Civil Dept. group from college!) who belongs to the stereotype – conservative ‘middle’ middle class family. She dreams of becoming a doctor/CEO/all other professions that promise both money and fame and don’t make her surpass her modesty levels. Yes the last criteria, is of supreme importance till she finally becomes one of the former 2 as listed.

And then…next is what? Suddenly her modesty levels are re-adjusted to suit her immediate society and of course she doesn’t like to stay with her parents.

The same girl who once was seen in the most conservative of dresses is seen flaunting the brand new tattoo on her lower back. You can well imagine what she must be wearing.

Now, picture this…did Bitti (…talked about above) change overnight? Did the new found freedom made her do so? Did she always picture herself as one she is now? Was she always waiting for the money and time to come…to live as a self-sustaining-socially-free girl?

Well, all of you would have different responses, but in consensus we would all agree she always had the potential to do such a thing…the magnitude was always there, it’s just the sign which got reversed.

7-3

Girls like Bitti, in their 20 something life would often direct us, again and again, how drinking is bad…how attending late night parties is not so cool. But in another couple of years after graduation, you would find yourself declining the ‘binge’ party organised solely by her, coz you’ve got to go to work early the following day. (Bad luck!)

So, next time any girl/boy in you group starts with his discourse on ‘How to lead a simple, alcohol-and-fun free life…how he’s the epitome of an ideal student/person living the most scrupulous life one can imagine!…either bring him to me, in-person OR just make him read my blog post and make him mark today’s day’ because friends…he/she has a lot of magnitude…and yes it takes just a twitch to change the sign..;)

Good luck and have fun!

Hey guys! If you have any instances/life experiences to share with us, hit the comment box NOW!

The concept of magnitude. AND/OR (The signs do not matter.)

by

Image

Hi friends,

I had prepared this post some days back but was a bit hesitant to post it. I had my doubts regarding this post. And before you read it, I would like to tell you that it would appeal only to a small section of people.

Over some 4 or 5 years, I have had a realization. We Indians, always have a binary way of looking at things; the good and the bad, right and wrong and so on. From our very childhood, we are taught what is sahi and what is galat. Hence till the end of our teenage or even till the end of life, a dual perspective to any object or situation becomes an inherent trait.

Thankfully, of late I have got rid of this bi-fold classification and only concentrate on the magnitude aspect of both. What I mean to say is that ‘+10’ and ‘-10’ are equal in all aspects to me. The modulus or the potential of both is the same.

I have come to this conclusion after a number of observations and personal experiences which I am now going to share in this post.

Why I would love to make you, my enemy?

Let us imagine you are in a fix. There are 3 people whom you can ask for help.

A- A common friend.

B- A stranger.

C- An enemy/fierce competitor.

Now, you are in desperate need of help and your helper would have to undertake a huge risk or discomfort. Who will definitely help you out?

A- Less than 50% probability.

B- Less than 25% probability.

C- More than 50% probability.

Reasons: Expect a half-hearted response from your “common” friend ‘A’. Unless he’s your best buddy he definitely won’t take the risk.

The stranger ‘B’ would be indisposed to take any action at all UNLESS you are an attractive woman and he’s a man.

Let’s focus on ‘C’- he would immediately rush to your help depending on the magnitude of animosity between you 2 guys. I assume that you would be most polite while asking for help (considering the situation), if you don’t it is YOUR ego problem.

Some random examples spanned over different times, categories etc.

To understand this concept I would like you to brain-storm over these sightings listed below. In all the sited instances, you are required to specially focus on 2 things:-

1. The constant magnitude OR potential of a person or personality trait.

2. The unimportant and ever flickering sign or nature of the same as in 1.

 Let’s start with Raavan from our Hindu mythology. He was a great pundit. Then suddenly he became the greatest king of rakshasas.

Lucifer, the brightest angel fell too! He became Satan- the greatest devil in hell.

Macbeth, the most faithful soldier to a king turned a complete 180 degrees.

Image

Rajat Gupta, IIT Delhi-Harvard Business School Alumnus, acknowledged as a generous philanthropist by Bill Gates himself, suddenly lands up in jail for conspiracy and securities fraud.

6-5-1

Munna bhai! Involved in 1993 Mumbai blasts; is now spreading Gandhigiri in Yerwada jail.

Sallu bhai! How he has suddenly started ‘Being Human’! We all know his past records; I don’t need to highlight them.

6-2 6-3

Natalie Portman(Black Swan)-“ A ballet dancer wins the lead in “Swan Lake” and is perfect for the role of the delicate White Swan – Princess Odette – but slowly loses her mind as she becomes more and more like Odile, the Black Swan.”  // Source-imdb.com

6-4

Spiderman 3- Good Spider-Man turns Black Spider-Man.

Beauty and the Beast-Beast transforms into prince.

I have now listed numerous examples for you to ponder over. This post would definitely have a sequel; the realization is yet to be shared. For the time being, re-think over these examples over a cup of coffee or during the 15-min breaks at office or college.

I will be back with the continuing post in some time. Till then…

Respect the magnitude and forget the sign!

If you have any similar experience or thought to share, feel free to post below.

Happy Gandhi Jayanti.

The Power of Memory!

by
After your heart-warming response to my previous post

http://nandishmalhotra.blogspot.in/2013/09/the-ill-effects-of-forced-ambidexterity.html

I am so excited to post this one. Some of you, who have gone through my previous post must have read about the magical memory which comes as a positive effect of neural re-circuiting. In this post, I would be elaborating more on it. So read on and have fun!

I knew well, that forced ambidexterity was something that had to be put out of the scene for some time. But, as I said and I repeat…I wanted to have some other superpower in replacement. And Ta-Da!…I decided it was time to unleash the Power of Memory….Huhuhahahaha.

For the past few months, I had noticed that my observation to detail had increased significantly. Now I decided to measure it. Accordingly, I drew a 3 * 3 matrix. Next I randomly plotted 5 black dots in the matrix drawn below. (The matrix has 9 small square boxes.)

412b1-5-1

Why 5 dots? Because I have read in numerous articles and science journals that the human brain finds it very convenient to associate with 5 things and consequently its multiples such as 10 etc.. Let me just give you a few examples.

1. A toddler conveniently counts from 1 to 5.He struggles with number 6. The mommies must be knowing this quite well. And then again, he struggles to register the number 11 in his brain.

2. Why the decimal system is widely followed? Any guesses?

3. It is very easy to recollect 5-lettered words. Have you ever wondered why a kindergarten kid never struggles with the spelling of Apple? And again moms must be knowing this quite well how Chintu or Pappu or Nandu learned the spellings of Papaya and Banana. They had to literally nod their heads in rhythm with the phonetics to make them learn it…Hehehe.

4. Try remembering a 5 digit number and then a 6 digit number. You’ll know what I’m talking about.

I can site numerous other examples…if you want to know more about the number 5 fixation g-mail me, anytime of the day (or night…:P).

Coming back to the 5 dots on the matrix, I focussed on them for 10 seconds and removed the paper out of sight. I repeated the same process with another 4 randomly plotted 3 * 3 matrix sheets (which makes it “5” sheets).

Then I tried to recollect all the dots’ position on the 5 sheets of paper. I was quite amazed when I got 4 totally correct. I misplaced 2 dots on last sheet. But all in all, I knew what to do next.

I practised the same exercise for about a week after the college classes. There was negligible improvement in this period. I realised the exercise was futile and plotting dots was no fun. I knew I had to visually click something more interesting, something which would give me the kicks to improve and improvise a better method for spontaneous eye-photography. Now, I was strolling on the road to the girls’ hostel where couples used to flock and cuddle and ET CETERA, pondering over these thoughts. Being a shy single boy, I forcibly tried to be oblivious to these things (and because I had no other option). But wait! How could one not notice the perfume in the whiff created just behind my shoulder. Eva Tease definitely! My heart skipped a beat as I turned over to see…I already knew what I should be expecting!

05b8e-5-2

 Eye-kohl check.Face blush check.Blue star-shaped earrings check.Left cheek dimple check.Lip gloss check…………….. check check check check.

Hardly 2 seconds and more than 10 things scanned! I knew what to practise on in the coming week.

Every day I would give myself 10 seconds to observe and scan a new object (let’s keep it scientific guys…:D). After 10 seconds I would try to recollect as many things as possible.

This activity continued for another 2-3 weeks but then all targets got exhausted. So, I began to lose interest too. Nevertheless, it had laid the foundation stones of developing a better memory.

I then proceeded to mobile phone number memorization. Now I am sure if I tell you my mobile number on the way, you won’t be able to recollect unless you have it noted down (my mobile number is not that simple…:P). I had to come up with a method to feed mobile numbers in the first go. And it took me no time in coming up with one.

Well now my technique is quite advanced but let me put it down from the basics. How do I learn a difficult mobile number?

The Power of Memory!

 

Let’s take my mobile number 9888160902 (don’t try to call ladies it’s no more registered under my name…:D)

How would you remember it? I’ll list down a few ways people often memorize…

1. 9888—-160—902(in this case you are bound to forget the middle or last part.)

2. 9888—16—09—02(this method is ok, but my method is superior.)

3. And there may be many more ways…since I have taken a single number I can’t show you more examples.

Here’s my method – based on the logic of 5-Point someone (kindly take note- I am not referring to any novel).

I register this number as 98—XX—16—9—2. You can very well see that what I have done is broken this number in 2 * 5 digits.

Over the years, I have modified my technique. I now associate numbers with a 10-point teddy bear body and alter his head ears eyes limbs according to the number given to me.

I don’t want to make this article any longer anymore. If anyone is interested in knowing more about memory techniques write to me or post below. I’ll be back with more tips soon. Till then goodbye and LIVE LIFE!

The ill effects of forced ambidexterity.

by

As a kid, I always believed I had superpowers. A die-hard fan of Dragon Ball-Z, I always thought there was a Goku inside me. As time passed, I grew up to find out to my utter disappointment that I had none. Nevertheless, I started building some. It may sound funny (crazy that I am), I started to torture myself into forced adaptations. One of them was…what we commonly call AMBIDEXTERITY. In my case – forced ambidexterity.

Caution: Forced ambidexterity can cause tremendous mental stress. In some severe cases it may lead to mental retardation. Try at your own risk. I did and would STRONGLY RECOMMEND AGAINST IT!

 
 

The first few days…

 
The initial few days are both amusing and hugely challenging. It really feels like you are learning to write, all over again; takes a lot of effort to draw those circles, triangles and squares. Scribbling A, B, C, D seems such an arduous task. Accompanying it, is a funny feeling. It feels as if you are watching over a kid struggling with his grip on the pencil; your unconditioned hand assumes an identity of its own, it isolates itself from the conditioned body and brain. You realise what a nursery child has to go through; you understand his psyche, you understand his helplessness.
 
By the end of the 1st month (if you can somehow manage to make it that far) your letter formation and subsequently word formation improves considerably.
 
Just a random fact – In case of forced or adapted ambidexterity, your left hand and right hand writing doesn’t match; it MAY match if you are congenitally ambidextrous.
 

After 2-3 months…

 
Though your adapted hand continues to improve, your other hand begins to start de-functioning. Due to nervous re-circuiting your right hand writing suffers a major blow. You get confused more often while writing. Your letter formation goes haywire. You realise something is terribly wrong! There is a strong urge to drop the practise altogether. Thankfully, I persisted. But little did I know this was just the beginning…
 
 
 

Another 2-3 months later…  

 
You get gifted with something absolutely remarkable! There comes a day when it suddenly dawns upon you …things, events, people, places are being registered in greater detail. You tend to RECORD practically everything that you see. Mark my words…RECORD (and recording and recollection are two different things). I don’t know why this happens. My guess…a part of your subconscious infringes into your conscious.
 
Now, whenever I tell this to people they start testing my memory skills. Guys, listen…once and for all…RECORDING and RECOLLECTION are 2 different entities. Let me explain it. If Nandu (forced ambidextrous) and Pappu (normal guy) both go to a psychiatrist, Nandu would be able to recollect more than a 1000 things on hypnosis whereas Pappu would struggle to give out even a 100.This is because Nandu’s recording was much superior to Pappu. Let’s just say Nandu recorded it in 1080p whereas Pappu in 180p (‘p’ stands for pixels). Accordingly, we require more buffering time to recollect. I hope I made my point clear.
 
Nevertheless not to disappoint my friends, I do try to recollect and recount the exact scene, event or object in great detail (and so can many ambidextrous people) and often leave them dumbfounded. But, the entire process takes a heavy toll on us. Believe me…it is very, very exhausting. In a nutshell, I can just say we have to play the part of both the hypnotist and the re-collector in this case but it takes 4 times the energy!
 

When I couldn’t take it anymore…

 
After 7-8 months of regular writing, I decided to move to the next level. I had seen many Youtube videos in which ambidextrous people used to write mirror images with their left and straight images with their right hand. I couldn’t wait to achieve this feat. Every day, whenever I had free time, I would sit down and write and write and write for hours together. The entire exercise had a debilitating effect on my vocals. My power of speech slowed down…I began to stammer. Being a passionate talker, I took notice of the imperfection in no time. I had no option but to quit… :(.
 
Within a day or two, the stammering disappeared. This further confirmed its causal action. I knew I had to abandon the exercise completely. I was far too terrified to continue.
 
 
 
 
There are people who tell me that you try to show off, try to stand out, you make up things etc. etc…. maybe I do. I NEVER ask you to believe me just as I never asked you to read through this lengthy article. But just in case you are thinking of trying out something very similar to forced ambidexterity, please do consult me. I will be more than happy to help you.
 
It has been more than 2 years since I dropped practising ambidexterity.How much of it do I still retain?…Well, I can still write on a whiteboard with both hands equally well, the superb recording power is still intact and even after 2 years and 3 months to be precise, I still pass both the tests for ambidexterity – the both-sided tongue flip test and the one-eye closed reading test. How credible are these tests I can’t say…but these seem to be the only ones we have right now.
 
 
If you want to know more about me and/or ambidexterity in detail, feel free to contact me via mail or post.

Kollege Karma – II

by

 Hey guys!

        I hope you enjoyed my first version of Kollege Karma. Here comes an addition to it.Read on…

She’s out of my league.

Mission: How to make the coolest girl of your class, your girlfriend?

Pre-requisites: She should have a close female friend; you should be smarter than her female friend IN ALL ASPECTS.

Karma: Don’t go for her. Instead make friends with her close friend. During all your group meetings never ever give YOUR GIRL the attention she craves for. A point will come when she will compete with her friend to get your attention and even more. Wait till that point. The more delayed it is, the better.

Advantages: Through this Karma you’ll get a great friend and a girlfriend. Dual benefit. And just in case you spoil the Karma midway, still you’ll end up with an awesome friend.

E-Gurukul


Mission: Learn at least 1 thing online.

Karma: The e-learning could be as simple as to make pasta in white sauce to something as obtuse as quantum mechanics.

Suggestion: If you are an engineer, economics is a must. Follow this website http://www.economistsdoitwithmodels.com/  if you are a dummy just like me. Apart from that, the teacher will keep you more than interested…:P.

Be the manager!


Mission: To bring out the manager in you.

Karma: Managing a simple aloo tikki stall in a small college fest also suffices. But try to have an experience of managing people (at least 3 in number).

Live carefree.


Karma: Love someone. Have a crush on him/her. Do stupid things in love, and enjoy paying the price OR reaping the reward of your antics.

Precaution: Don’t get sentimental. Practise love like table-tennis, badminton, cricket etc. Yes! Play it like a sport. You win OR lose doesn’t matter, you always become a better player. (Just picture this. You have a neck-to-neck tennis match with your friend cum opponent in the court. You lose. Do you crib about it? No you don’t.) I think I have made my point pretty clear with this example.

Lift-Jump prank!


Location: A fully operational superior quality lift.

Pre-requisites: The lift should be filled to n-1/n-2 capacity. (‘n’ is the maximum number of persons it can carry.)

Logic: When you jump, you exert a force equivalent to 2 times your weight during the impact. So that will make up for another 1 person’s weight hence the above requisite is a must!

Karma: When the lift is in motion (especially downwards), make ample room for yourself so that you can jump comfortably without tripping on anyone. Ensure that there is no heart patient or serious/non-desirable element (if you know what I mean) in the lift. Now jump madly! Not once…but 2-3 times to give the occupants the fright of their lives…:D.
Guys, just a small request. When you write back to me, kindly give a brief introduction of yourself, your background details, your current profile etc.. So that I can adequately and appropriately credit you at my blog.
I just love to hear from all of you. And yes, I go through every single word of yours (because I have all the time in the world for it…:P).


Kollege Karma – I

by

This post in particular, may be useful for anyone going to college, planning to go to college or any other institution. It may also be useful to any boy/girl of any age.
Most of these karmas have been tried and tested. Still it’s never too bad to consider your parents/friends/enemies before taking any risk. Good luck and have fun!


The imaginary steer.

Location: When you are just about to halt your car besides a fancy girl in a fancier car. (Could be very near to a Stop Sign or Traffic Signal)

Karma: Lower your speed to around 10 kmph; approach her car FROM THE LEFT; look the fancy girl in the eye (this is done to seek her notice as well as distract her); without actually gripping your steering wheel make a wild steering action to YOUR RIGHT.

The Invalid Hi!

Location: Lecture Hall.

Karma: Position your MOST TRUSTWORTHY friend right behind the girl of your dreams. With the best and biggest of smiles wave a BIG HI! Her immediate response to your INVALID MOVE will clearly indicate the chances of your going out on a date with her that evening.

Tasty and Free.

Pre requisites: High self-confidence and superior role-play.

Location: Eateries your college students patronize OR have a Mess contract with.

Karma: Role play that you are your college’s mess secretary or senior mess member. Check out all the sweetmeats/pastries/desserts etc. Make an excuse that you have to shortlist some for the mess menu.

Precaution: Only taste them!

Scaring Shaaaabji.

Location: Security guard’s sleeping chair.

Pre requisites: A fake gun/any other fake weapon.

Karma: Sit quietly besides your sweet, innocent guard with your fake weapon. Poke him lightly at his chest. Scare the shit out of him. And then run for your life.

Shudh Desi Romance.

Location: Library (you should basically be sitting next to him/her AND ONLY YOU).

Karma: Sit to your partner’s right. When he/she is poring over his/her book, without your hand being noticed, tap softly on her left shoulder. She turns her neck. Peck her on the right cheek.

I’ll be back with more Kollege Karma very soon. If you have any cool and whacky ideas to share or post, feel free guys/gals. The stage is all yours!

Delhi and now Mumbai!

by

Hi guys,


With due disrespect, derision and disregard to any and every difference between you and me…I am Nandu and pay the highest honour/reverence to you my readers.

I had created my blog some 3-4 years back. I did write some articles, reconsidered them, rewrote them and in the process realised that I hadn’t matured enough. Hence, did not publish or post them. My opinion was biased, self-centred and did not give a broad perspective to the situation.

Over these years I have kind of matured a bit I guess…I don’t follow any religion except humanity. In fact, I mock the very concept of religion. It is like a chain, a classification that prevents you from being a part of the bigger picture. And I want to be an international citizen, period.


Last year in the middle of the closing month we all got to hear some terrible news which ruined our Christmas and the New Year celebrations as well. Although we are more than halfway through the next year the problem has still stuck to us like chewing gum. I think the problem is deep rooted now.

One of my sisters was raped on 16th Dec 2012…and the other on 22nd August and didn’t we all just celebrate Rakshabandhan on the 21st of this month. Hardly one day post we get to hear this shocking news. Did all the brotherly feelings dissipate overnight? Why do we even celebrate Rakshabandhan? What’s the use of tying a stupid vow of protection around your wrist.*Whateveryournameis*, you bloody juvenile, immature beast! Answer me… did you hold her with your Rakhi tied wrist? And can there be a bigger shame than this?

Sorry to leave this midway…but between these 2 incidents I had read some news about some ministers watching porn in Parliament and then in some State Legislative House as well…I won’t like to highlight it because yes I am afraid of them(and so is Mr. Chetan Bhagat)…but tell me seriously…is watching porn so very important that even when country’s or a particular state’s matters are being discussed you are so not interested…my dear friends why do you even sit there…we definitely don’t need you…

Going on…I don’t need to discuss these problems…you can very well read about them in news or the net just like I did. What I want from you all is to come up with the reason WHY IS THIS HAPPENING and the solution to correct it…HOW IT CAN BE STOPPED…

I know 1 thing for sure that my fellow brothers are not that ruthless that they’ll exploit women and the country at large…where is the mistake? What’s amiss?

Is it your/our sexual needs?

In my 5th semester of college I read about Maslow’s hierarchy of needs…Just scroll down below and have a quick look…


It does make sense…

Sex as a subject or topic is tacitly taboo in our society. Ok I know we can’t discuss it with our parents…but why do we feel shy discussing it with our cousins or siblings who are mature enough to talk about it…

Diverting totally from the topic, let us have a look at this development. We Indians are known to be the writers of Kama Sutra…we had practised it; we were the experts at it. But what happened in the interim…they saw they learned they conquered??? Yes those naughtyamericans! I don’t think so…if we were best at this (at some point of time) why not let our women be exploited this way rather than being raped for free…and mercilessly…but NO! Our porn-watching-sexually-deprived government won’t allow it…although many of them may illicitly involve in post-meeting debauchery. (No wonder why they have a prolonged potency.)

One of my close friends pointed out to the fact that if prostitution is legalised then almost every 3rd women would resort to it…making the State practically a brothel. Honestly I don’t think so…I maybe wrong…

But on the other side there may be incidents of human trafficking akin to Estonia and other north European nations…because we have both the mafia and the inadequate security to breed such a crime…and I forgot foreign tourists too! They already have to suffer through a lot of groping and staring…I guess this is the only thing missing to make India a complete dystopia, a no women’s land…YEY! Let’s do it…;)

I haven’t travelled to many places or many cities but enough to observe the fact that many orphaned girls are exploited not once but throughout their lives for sexual gratification. If they get money for being eaten (sexually exploited) at least they would also get a chance to feed on something…I mean FOOD…

Half of my college mates who are graduates now…and have the busiest of schedules talk about women and sex and how to get them…the remaining time that is 12-15 hours they are either coding at Twitter, Facebook, Amazon and the likes or spending hours at making presentations at the IIMs…and some lesser beings like me are trying to identify what business to open in India…but still we are all very busy…including me and you (I know it’s very funny…ha ha ha ha)…

I don’t know what’s happening on the other gender’s side…my guess it’s roughly the same story…

With so much of stress and neck-breaking work…we definitely do get exhausted…

From nursery to class 12th to competitive exams to college to job, one of our needs gets murdered. Scroll upwards and see the 3rd,4th and 5th level of the table. Yes you got it right!…seem the odd ones out don’t they…


Thanks for going through my first post, if you liked it please post a question/answer/thought or personal experience (relevant to topic please…:P). Just to get things started I am posting my own.  


QUESTION-
At the age of 4 I learned cycling at 10 swimming at 11 table tennis at 18 mind mapping at 19 drums at 20 skiing and the list goes on…but throughout my teenage I always had one doubt. What’s the ideal age to have sex…so that it doesn’t become a sort of great mystery to me…or its curiosity doesn’t infect me like a disease…all of us want to do something that the others have done or experienced…why should we be left out?